Here comes one of those posts that might not even make it to the publish stage, a post that will probably go nowhere in the terms of views and it certainly won’t change anything or teach anyone anything exciting. This was a post I planned on writing about a month ago when I finished reading someone else’s blog, the blogger was bitching and crying about how their “blogger friends” always screw them over or shit on the relationship. I know it sounds a little ridiculous to think that even in blogger world people still find a way to piss and moan about the people they come across on the internet, like who really gives a damn anyway?
Anyway, I wanted to write this post in hopes that the bitching blogger might take a look at the situation from a different perspective instead of just aimlessly bitching about it. I like to think that at some point general bitching or in some cases excessive bitching needs to fall prey to an actual resolve, whatever the resolve might be. In this specific situation and as someone that’s had the chance to deal with the blogger I am referring to I can not only see things as a witness, but also as a first hand participant.
I have some advice for the blogger I am referring to and it’s very simple advice……
Before you go running and bitching about other bloggers and your interaction with those bloggers you might want to stop and LOOK IN THE MIRROR, stop for a second, don’t just glance at it… stare for a minute. Now ask yourself, “What might have I done to push this relationship into a negative situation?” I would be willing to bet that looking in the mirror a few times and dropping that bullshit one sided view of everything that you have might help you to secure longer lasting, healthier… bullshit free online relationships.
Look in the Mirror
The sad reality is that regardless of how good you are at what you do (and you ARE good), people… not just bloggers will have a hard time taking you serious if your constantly found crapping on others within the community and specifically your community. There is no benefit to kicking the people you swear so deeply that you want to help, there is also no benefit in trying to call others out on bullshit when you can easily be called out for some of the bullshit you spew.
At the end of the day I will continue to do me, much like other small business owners, bloggers and blogging ceos. Your no different, but seriously if your not going to take the time to look in the mirror and see where you might have caused plenty of the issues that surround you then do everyone a favor and stop bitching about all of the crappy bloggers out there and how terrible they are to you. Your room to talk is limited and you always told me that I managed to tell you exactly how it is when you need it most, if you weren’t bullshitting than please consider the following. Stop the nonsense and move forward, you can only drag so much trash behind you before it bogs you down.
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That’s always sound advice, whenever we start complaining about others. In real life, I mean, not just in the blogging world.
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Hi Anne, you are right on point. Same applies in the real world as it does in blogging world
There is an old expression over in Germany where I used to live which would roughly translated say “First sweep away the dirt in front of your own door before you talk about the dirt in front of other people’s doors”
But John, you know how it is. There always will be people they just can’t make it through the day without to bitch at least once or twice about other people. I just completely ignore those people. They are not worth my time or a second thought.
Keep your blog going as it is. I like swinging by here once in a while and to read what you or your guest bloggers have to say.
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Thanks for swinging by Rick I appreciate, and of course thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. That’s one saying I haven’t heard yet, there are a few out there I suppose.
I bet the way you handle those things keeps your mind relaxed.
You were right, that didn’t go anywhere haha
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haha we will see about that.
People like that don’t go very far for too long. Bad people end up dying alone with regrets as well. One more thing, constant complainers are usually unhappy with their own life and are filled with jealousy.
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You know your right, I just like to think that with a little help from some friends a person can get out of that mode and focus more on moving forward. Too many good people go that path and it’s a shame.
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It’s good for us all to stop once in a while and look in the mirror and see if we are still the same person we used to be, some sound advice there John
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Thank you Karen
Now one of our good friends just needs to follow it. 
The Mirror is a good analogy. What you get from the world is a reflection of what you put out. Put a smile out and you get back a smile. Show hatred and anger towards the world and you will get hatred and anger back.
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I find that people who take to bitching about others are usually found wanting in the same areas that they bitch about. The fault you see in others is actually the fault you hate in yourself. So it’s great advice to look in the mirror first, or in other words do some “introspection”. If you hate something about others, there something screwy in you that brought up that hate. Cool post John, that did hit a nail somewhere.
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Very good advice for bloggers like us. Thanks for sharing.
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Something I learned some time ago and when I hear people complaining I realize how annoying I must have been. I’ve been cruising around your blog here cause of a post on wassup about your blog. Nice post here, guess it’s pretty old but was listed as a classic and I would agree.
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Well thank you for stopping by I need to tell Sire (blogger behind Wassup Blog) thank you